Have you ever been into this situation where you have a friend of the opposite sex and one member of the friendship really wishes hard to enter into a romantic/sexual relationship but the other person does not? It’s mostly men who experience this situation due to fear of rejection from their ladies friends and you know it so well, it’s called friend zone, right? Well if you have, then I have a little treat for you and your miserable situation.
How did it even begin in the first place?
So, I had finished my classes for that day and since it was still too early to go to the rooms, I decide to take a little rest on the benches that were outside the class then my friend James walks by and sits beside me, from the look of things, things seem not to be okay with him, so I ask him what’s wrong with him?
‘’I met this lady like two months ago, she is so hot and curvy, she approached me and told me how lonely she was and with no friends, we exchanged our contacts and the rest continued that night…’’ ehe, ‘’…so at the beginning, things used to be okay, she really attracted me at the first sight and I imagined that there would be something between us, ….’’ Then what happened? ‘’… I really fear telling her that right now because I think she has just become too much of my friend and I fear that she might reject me or tell me she has a boyfriend…’’ but how does your texts look like? ‘’…she tells me she is bored but when I try to introduce some love stories to complement her, she really doesn’t show interest and diverts stories always…’’ have you ever asked her out on a date? ‘’… yes…’’ and then, ‘’… she says there is no need to go out on a date, I may just buy food we go eat at her place or, she just says NO.’’
From that little conversation, I could clearly tell that my friend had been friend zoned and is at a greater risk now. No flirty texts, no sexy selfies… this means that he didn’t corner this lady’s feelings at the right time when everything could have worked perfectly as he intended and when this lady still had romantic feelings towards him. Instead, he became her friend for too long until the lady got used to him and until he will just serve in that friend capacity the rest of his time. The lady now have him as a ‘’boyfriend’’ who is actually not a boyfriend. Just cure her boredom and listen to all her problems.
Now, you have to stop the rains from beating you and be safe from this situation;
Once you are in the friend zone, it’s usually hard to exit since you have now known and gotten used to each other that it’s so difficult for you to loose each other. If you can, quit as first as you can or, look for a girlfriend. Your friend zoner might get jealous of your new catch and break up with you.
But, if you never waited for that long for it to turn into a friend zone, then here are some of my tips that can save you from the situation from building up.
Please, as soon as you meet that lady, focus on what you want. Try to make your intentions clear so that you don’t give her a chance to manipulate the situation for you because ladies are always very good at manipulations. The more time you waste with them, the more she becomes a household for you and things get worse.
Are you worried of other guys? You don’t not have to imagine that life began when she first met you, it so obvious that there must have been other guys in her life cycles. The faster you act, the faster you are likely to get feedback whether you are accepted or rejected. Here also, the more you wait, the more you end up being in the friend zone.
Always try so hard to outdo and win her since sometimes she might have selected you as the best more so when she is a serial friend zoner, meaning she will give you so much attention that you need that makes you think you are going somewhere…
Finally, do not be afraid of rejection, if she was not meant for you, just accept and move on, you will always find another one who will accept you.
Therefore, after all your trials and determinations, ask her if she will be your girlfriend or girl lover? If she says YES, you win, if she says NO you still win, that will be a good opportunity for you to stop wasting your time with someone who does not have the same feelings as you are and look for someone who will love you. CLARITY IS A GIFT, FEAR IS NOT.
As always, God bless you